I agree with ovrrnbw. Those two are mutually exclusive. You can be detached and still not go with her on her house-hunting journey. I know you are well versed in DB from your first sitch, but being her "buddy" is probably not where you want to be long term. It sounds like it was a decent time, but I am an advocate of being supportive of your WAS' desire to leave without actually helping them along that way.
For instance, my W wanted to work on her resume and even get interviewing books to prepare for her job search. She asked me if it was okay for her to buy the books. I told her "get whatever you need". However, I refused to help her write and edit her resume. We all have to draw our own line somewhere. You drew your line further than I would, doesn't make it wrong! But I do think you need to decide if you want to be her lover or her friend. And if you want to be her lover then do not settle for the latter.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
