Just a word about the smoking - don’t expect it to stop. If it’s a dealbreaker for you, move on.

I overlooked smoking with crazy ex boyfriend. He was the first and only person I ever dated who smoked. He also claimed to be a light smoker who was going to quit, but he never really tried. (Mind you, I’m not blaming smokers, it’s a really tough addiction to break). He was respectful, but I wouldn’t pick a smoker again.