I wish I had found DB earlier. I spent at least a year lurking (not posting) on a Reddit forum trying to understand how I could set things back on track with my MR. Once you sorted through the 90% of posts which were not useful, 10% were incredibly useful and much of the advice matched what I found here. But... there was not the same interactive feel and connection to other people's stories that I have found here.
By the time I found this website, I knew a BD was coming. I was online every night desperately searching for advice, saw the words "walk away spouse" in a Google search, read a couple articles that resonated with how I felt at the time, and somehow found this place. I had MWD's book shipped to an Amazon locker and jumped right in.
In other words, it was by dumb luck that I even found this forum. I will be forever grateful for the advice and interactions I have had here, and would advocate strongly for making it more easy to find.
I agree with the comments about technology. The most frustrating thing to me is posting on a mobile device.
I don't post much anymore for privacy/legal reasons. This has nothing to do with the forum or site, I just prefer to avoid taking any chances while we move through court.
