One foot in front of the other

[Elbereth]

I can relate, I know that when I found things (usually I was snooping though, I didn't just stumble across it) it was very difficult not to confront. Most of us in the thick of our sitches get spinning when we find evidence of the OP. You're right, it wasn't the right way to approach it from a DBing standpoint, but very few people can control their emotions enough to just keep on DBing. Detachment is about the not emotionally reacting, but detachment is not a switch you throw on and suddenly you're detached. It is a process that takes time and effort to finally arrive at a high enough level to remain even through incidents like this.

I say all that to say don't beat yourself up too much. The problem with confrontation is that it rarely goes the way you would like it to. But water under the bridge, just keep working and focusing on you! Better days are ahead.

Thanks Steve, that helps. I dwelled all night on how I reacted. I have been so good about keeping it together in front of him and not being emotional. I had felt pretty detached towards him otherwise. You are right, seeing the evidence and holding it in my hand is a different level, and I obviously have a way to still go to being detached in that way. I was actually shocked he even came over to speak to me about it in person. That's probably why I lost it. I wasn't prepared emotionally at all for that. And, I'm trying to not read too much into his actions or reactions. There is nothing about going through this type of sitch that makes any sense to a logical person, which I am.

Better days ARE ahead. I do know that. Thank you for saying so, I did need to hear it today.