New Beginnings Pt 3

[CanBird]

ie: Hi xh, thank you for your reply. I understand that you are not sure what to do right now, and if I can address what is unclear, or vague I'd be a happy to answer any questions you might have to help us move forward with things.

As always, know that you can contact D4 any time. Just reach out and we'll figure something out. You're her dad, I will always cooperate with you on making sure you can connect with her. I'm always going to work with you when it comes to D4.

Be Well, Be Safe
CanBird

Instead try:
Hi XH, thank you for your reply. I'm not sure what is confusing you, the math is as I laid out and that is consistent with our divorce decree, just in this case I am the buyer. You get the same amount whether it is sold to a stranger or I buy you out. Please let me know when we can get going on this as I want to get my future settled.

As always, know that you can contact D4 any time. Just reach out and we'll figure something out. You're her dad, I will always cooperate with you on making sure you can connect with her. I'm always going to work with you when it comes to D4.

Be Well, Be Safe
CanBi
I like your second part about D4. You can address the issue of him not staying with you if he ever actually makes plans to visit I guess.

And I agree that he's probably not really absorbing the math, because in his mind he thought he would get more, or he resents the idea of you keeping the home while he doesn't have it, or he just thought you would stay put as his Plan B in case OW doesn't work out and now he's uncomfortable at the idea that option to go back to his old life is no longer there.

Hi kml, I like what you added. And as I read it, it reminds me of how xh use to communicate. I really like it!

I think starting off with bread crumbs, is the best. I don't want to overwhelm this duck too much, or he'll fly away. Agreed he's not absorbing the email as a whole. And he's the one who suggested it twice that I buy the house. (I have the text messages to prove it). He walked away from the home, showed zero interest in keeping it ever. I will never be his plan B. That is not ducky with me. No way. I don't know what he's thinking, as most of us LBS don't.

Thanks kml for you input. it's gold baby! gold!