New Beginnings Pt 3

[CanBird]

Not sure what xh means by "the details are too vague", but that's how he sees it. He probably hasn't looked at out decree since he signed it almost a year ago. At least he's replied, and the door to discussion is open.

It may mean that it doesn't match up with some sort of vague ideas he had in his head about how nothing will really change as far as what he left behind and he's confused that you are saying things that don't fit into his world view. Kinda like he's only hearing "quack quack quack" (Loving the ducks by the way)

xh: "I miss D4..." Nice to hear, I don't doubt that he does. But actions speak louder than words. Do I need to remind him that he can contact her anytime? Maybe... although I have done it many times in the past. Maybe, just to show my side as open and willing to cooperate.

Not your duck. That's his duck.

I think xh might be hoping that D4 & I would move to his home state, where most of his family is. That way, he doesn't have to find a place, because he'll just crash with family.

You can guess what he's hoping for but unless that helps you with your negotiating position, it's not a duck you need to worry about.

Right now I think it is best for D4 and I to stay where we are in this house and with his cooperation, it can happen.

Remember - YOU are the sane parent and are the responsible parent until he can prove on his own that he could also be sane and / or responsible. Depending on what is in your decree about child-care and decision making, it may be just your duck.

Hi AndrewP, I'm glad you're enjoying the ducks... I can't help myself Laughter is the only way I've been able to get through any tough times. Always trying to find the brighter side.

Thank you for your comments. It really helps me understand/see things from his prospective as a MLC/WAS. aka One Confused Duck (OCD..HA!... ..)

And yes, XH has his own should figure out his own ducking way to communicate with his daughter. Legally I am the more of the decision maker with D4 & child-care. She's with me all the time. (Soul & physically). We have joint legal. His communicating with D4 (or anyone else for that matter) was never an issue like it is now, before we were divorced and he was away for 6 months at a time. (He's done this work since 2015) Guess reception on Mars isn't that great. Actually, D4 often says he's in "Neverland". I did not plant that duck in her head. Although, she is witty like mom; genetically guilty as charge then.


End note, your comments made me smile. I am the sane one.