Pack thanks for clarifying things and bringing more insight.
So your W was unfaithful when you were dating.
Cheaters cheat because that's what they do and do not see it as being wrong.
Why do you think you were trying to live a life you couldn't afford?
Pack I am not saying you are not ready to D. Only you know if you are ready. I just don't think you should D to date.
So no truth to be selfish and arrogant?
Just so you know IMO is there is remorse it will be many many years down the road.
LH, not sure if you have ever cheated on a GF or wife. I have made it known before that I cheated on my W when we were dating.
I did see it as wrong at the time. "Cheaters cheat" is not really true. I did it once. I wanted the attention of multiple women that I had when I was single for the couple years before I met my W and began dating. Having multiple women made me feel desirable and wanted.
Most WW see it as wrong too. It is evidenced by their actions. If they believed it was morally right, they wouldn't hide it like they do. A lot of the WW's use the affair as a tool to break their bond with the husband, planning to get obsessed with a new man to forget about their old one. I'm sure many have heard the saying "the best way to get over someone, is to get under someone new". But, as we know, that isn't 100% true. If you haven't spent time alone, you haven't gotten over things, those thoughts and feelings are not fully processed and people will flounder.
That said, I think men and women cheat for different reasons typically. I think you are pretty aware of this but I say this for everyone else reading.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
