I don't ever put myself first, but everybody else and that is very wrong and unhealthy. I have already started working on this problem, almost finished NMMNG and will keep reading all I can find and hopefully improve.
I'd love to hear more as you find your balance between being self-compassionate and compassionate towards others. Balancing the two can be a struggle even for those without Nice Guy Syndrome. (:
Originally Posted by dmrafa
I am leaning more towards not letting her go while the school year is still on, however I am trying to find the balance not to be too controlling.
Just as there's no "good" or "balanced" amount of being abusive, I don't believe there's a "good" or "balanced" amount of being controlling--with the exception of people you are responsible for such as your employees or kids. Do you disagree? I literally bristle at the phrase, "letting her go". I know how I, or many of my girlfriends, would react to a partner saying that--we'd immediately exit stage left. Of course, that doesn't absolve her from her responsibility to watch the kids or pay childcare costs on her 50% of their days. It's an interesting challenge for her to solve, if you're able to take a step back from the situation.
