There is more than one way to earn respect and show you have balls.
SD, so what are the other ways? What do they look like? For me there are two criteria for commanding respect:
- You act in ways that are worthy of respect - You do things from a position of strength
You can earn respect by admitting to past mistakes and showing a willingness to make improvements. You can make an effort to be true to yourself and find that self-respect and confidence that you lost somewhere along the way. You can show that you're willing to show up.
Originally Posted by SteveLW
If LH's characterization is correct and you want her to fail in finding someone else due to her circumstances so she'll come back to you....I am not sure that is living up to either of those criteria.
His characterization is incorrect. I hadn't even considered she was somehow undesirable due to her circumstances. She's a smart and attractive woman so I doubt she will have a hard time finding potential suitors. I'm just betting on her realizing she already has what she is looking for. Maybe that's nuts. Maybe the pendulum has swung too far the other direction and I am now over-confident. Time will tell. And it isn't like I'm sitting around pleading with her, begging her, telling her I can't live without her, or doing all that stuff. I'm not perfect, but my focus is on me.
