If your anxiety adds pressure, then that is clearly not working. Need to make a change there.
Yup, and it is something we discussed as well. She's asking for my to be open, so I am open and say "this isn't sustainable for me and at some point I will decide to stop the pain" which she then interprets as pressure because there's a expiration date. I told her she can't have it both ways - either you want me to be open which means hearing things you might not want to hear or you don't want me to be open because it causes you pressure.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
his is the rationalization that so many LBS's make. Only emotional attachment could lead one to such a horrible conclusion.
I don't disagree.
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Do you think she respects you?
A year ago? No. Now? Yes, or at least much more than she did. Is it enough? Don't know.
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Do you think your behaviors are attractive to women?
Kinda the same answer as above. A year ago when I was depressed and withdrawn - nope. Today? Much moreso. It isn't like I'm going to bars or have an opportunity to be around "women" but I've found myself in conversations at grocery stores or other random places that didn't used to happen. There's a marked change in my outward energy and overall confidence.
