If your anxiety adds pressure, then that is clearly not working. Need to make a change there.

Also, I'll second LH's advice. It appears that was also his first post to you as well.

You are "putting yourself out there emotionally", which she allegedly wants. In return, she is on dating sites. Ahhhhh, but! There's a but! It's..... NOT. THAT. MUCH. Phew. Thank God. You can sleep easy now. She's only sorta on dating sites. This is the rationalization that so many LBS's make. Only emotional attachment could lead one to such a horrible conclusion.

Do you think she respects you?

Do you think your behaviors are attractive to women?

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.