Basically her avoidance right now is still too big to want any attachment and my anxiousness adds pressure.
Neither style is very healthy... There is always a CHOICE to be different than your attachment style. I understand that can be really difficult in a heated moment so you can set some guidelines in place. It may seem a little unnatural but it can really help when emotions run high. Have you thought about how you can control your anxious attachment?
Originally Posted by SaltyDog
We're in a catch-22. She's afraid of turning back and giving things another try because she thinks it will go back to how it used to be and doesn't trust that I can provide what she needs. I can't provide what she needs as long as she refuses to turn back and try and I can't trust her fully in the current situation.
Is this your MC talking? Did she give you any tools how to handle any of this info?
Have you read the threads on Pursuit/Distance? Might be beneficial to take a peek if not.
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