Why has the forum come to a snail's pace?

[may22]

As far as getting new people to post - I do think UBB forums appear dated these days - they've been around since the 90s and the look/layout hasn't really changed a ton with the times. Someone browsing thru could likely see the layout of the board, and to be honest the look of divorcebusting.com, and move on elsewhere.

I will say when I first found the website I almost moved on and didn't look back. Honestly, I thought it was inactive. I also thought the forums were just archived versions of the forum or the forum hadn't been touched in some time until I poked around and notice the dates and the postings being updated.

Me too... although I have subsequently thought that might be a plus in some ways, since it reduces the possibility of my H ever poking around and finding me here! LOL.

If we are in the wish list space right now, I agree that some mechanism for people to connect outside of this forum and evolve friendships would be very beneficial, though I understand that the risks involved may not be worthwhile at the forum level given some of the past experiences.

And, it would be great if some of the other forums had more activity, like piecing. There doesn't seem to be a good place to fit for the not-exactly-newbies-anymore people except MLC or the Big D. I also wonder if there were more activity there if it would help to encourage more newbies to get involved and post here... yes, totally get it that DB is about saving yourself and not your M, but for the people who come here fresh and hurting and wanting hope, it would be a more positive sign to see activity on that forum rather than crickets. It also might help people who think "if only I can get my WS to stay, everything will be peachy!" to see that difficulty through active posting, not just having it told to them by vets. Just a thought.