Honestly I think it's slow because of a convergence of things. The tech is old. And isn't the most intuitive or user friendly. The anonymity is probably it's best selling point but it also makes it difficult for people who've really connected to connect in the real world. This place has all the makings of a great support group, minus the fact that the friendships built are nearly impossible to evolve. There is a lot of competition out there. Just these concepts alone there are handful of places that promote similar concepts with different lingo but they have an enormous online presence. There's one in particular I can think of that is literally everywhere, social media, YouTube, podcasts, etc. Finding this forum takes some work if you aren't already tipped off by DR. I only found this place because our discernment counselor told me to get and read DR. But if you look up some pretty common phrases people would've looked up in this kind of crisis the DB website isn't even on the first page in most cases or at all.
I also think there are some factors with the pandemic. People are on top of each other. When I came here over a year ago I could post multiple times a day without worry or concern anyone would be over my shoulder. That is not the case for me and I'm sure a lot of other users. Also for some people I think it's slowing down some of the incidents that are going on. Job losses, kids home all the time. Things like that make it difficult. The flip side of that is a lot of us who got here over a year ago our situations have calmed most are entering D proceedings or reconciling. And I noticed just in general, even when I first got here, that as people move beyond crisis either entering into divorce proceedings or reconciling they post less and less and eventually fall of the face of the planet.
I will say though I have been noticing the same thing Sandi has where there are a newbies who post constantly and then all of a sudden just drop off. I don't know what that's about.
