"I feel like this would really be the death knell to any future possible reconciliation. Posters on here have said I have heaps of time but I feel like I am being pushed into a divorce I don’t want."
Don't "fight" for control. In most circumstances it does not play out well.
As far as a lawyer goes.. kinda go with your gut. Understand it (Your choice) is colored with all of your emotions. Listen to the lawyers. Interview multiple. Remember.. they do this for a living. As such they are looking at it from a business standpoint. While most US courts favor the mother you did use the word "mum" so your situation could be different.
At the end of the day.. you do have "time". Because you will be tied to him/this situation as long as the kids are under 18.
You have to understand that his actions are also based in "emotion" and will be unsettling to you.
Pick your moments.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
