Well, I spoke too soon. H has retreated back into his sanctuary of our D's bedroom. A few times this week I never even saw him. The times I have, is usually dinner time and he meanders into the kitchen and me being me, will ask if he cares to join us, then as a teen, he responds with asking what I am making. If it sounds good, he says yes, if not no.
I spoke with my IC this week and I explained how I am having a hard time dropping the rope in one situation; I want to redo some things around the home. I know it is silly, but part of me worries if I do, he might think I have moved on and he cannot come back, but the other part of me knows nothing I do will change his mind, this is all him.
My IC also told me that I deserve pretty things. We have lived in the same home for almost thirty years and although there have been little fixes here and there, it has been a while. I would like to shake things up a bit, but I also do not want to spend a bunch of money, if I need it down the road.
He has stated I would get the home and why not fix it up while with two incomes?
On a positive note, my IC stated that I am doing very well at being non reactive to the behavior he displays.
So a little positive with the negative. So I am again going to work on what I can control. We expect some nice weather here over the weekend, so maybe I can get out safely and do something.
