New Beginnings

[CanBird]

What I have found - at least with the 2 women who I did end up dating - was that "likes long walks" means from the restaurant to the car - not my usual hour long ramble through the woods or along streets.

That struck a chord! "Ms Grand Canyon" claimed to have hiked the whole Grand Canyon. I was like "Wow, you too?!" What did you think of the bottom? She couldn't recall. Hint--everyone recalls. Next, she went almost to the bottom. "What did you think of the village halfway down?" Her story dialed back to she went 1-2 miles down. I can't recall anyone I dated online who "liked to hike" who hiked regularly or went on more than a few with me.

I know we men tell certain whoppers, too. It's funny height (men) and weight (women) fibs get called out often, but this one not as much, though it's common enough dating experts warn about it.

Online dating was actually fun for me. Most were nice, and the rest were interesting. You're meeting someone outside your normal circles and the commitment is just a glass of wine (for each).

Hi CWarrior! It's all about having fun with no expectations. The first guy I met wasn't truthful, and I called him out on one thing (he marked off he had kids and didn't..) "OH, I set this thing up once and haven't looked at it since. Didn't know I did that". (That's a pretty specific box to check ). I let the other stuff go. It was nice just to break the ice and get the first one over with. Kind of like job interviews..lol...

What I have found - at least with the 2 women who I did end up dating - was that "likes long walks" means from the restaurant to the car -

Lolol. That's pretty sad. Andrew, perhaps some kind of local walking group once the pandemic goes away? That might be a good place to meet like-minded women.

I'll say, most of the guys I met online were pretty much as advertised. (Many do put younger pictures of themselves but so long as they include a more current one I don't mind. ) I do think though that I have a pretty good ability to read between the lines so my success was much better than my friend, who has NO ability to read a profile and guess whether she would be interested.

Guys should not post mirror selfies, especially not with their shirt off and their pubic hair showing. Please. Also everybody nix the pictures with spouses cut out. Explain the other pictures with attractive women ("me and my sister") otherwise we assume that was your ex of your last date. Do NOT post a picture of you in a bathrobe holding a live duck (seriously, yes, I saw that!). It IS good to post a photo of you out with friends (as it let's us know you're not a friendless recluse) and yes, we might make decisions based on the lifestyle shown in the photo. I have NOTHING against motorheads who want to spend their weekends in the desert riding motorcycles or dune buggies. I understand the allure. But we might not have much to talk about or I might not want to spend too many of those weekends with you. You would probably be happier with a "good ole girl" . Same for a guy who is a gym rat - I like working out in the gym, but I'm inconsistent. The guy who gets up at 4 am every day to do that might be looking for a companion who is a little more motivated than I am, or might be too obsessed with perfection for my tastes.

Musical tastes is not a dealbreaker for me as my tastes are wide, but if somebody tells me they like music and all they can cite is classic rock from the 60's, I know they're not going to be sharing this interest with me. (CMM likes jazz, that's neither here nor there for me, but if a guy could cite some current rock/punk influences it would definitely interest me. )

Hi kml, we think a like..lol... My favorite pics are the ones that the dating sites thinks are a match for me. Most look like they are going for the bad boy look, or are in a retirement home. How in the world? And from far away places too. Clearly, some guys don't read the fine print and are just looking at the photos.

I love classic rock. And anything not by Disney... lol...