Best friend for 27 years in MLC part 2

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Turns out he had a terrible motorcycle accident which crushed his leg. Laid up six months and they still might have to amputate. Lost his job as a airline pilot.

I really feel for the guy, that sounds awful and is a terribly tough burden that he'll most likely be dealing with for the rest of his life. I love riding, started about 10 years ago, but there is a saying that there are two types of riders; ones who have had an accident and ones who will have an accident. One of my BFs had one and was so lucky that he had no lasting damage, but he never wanted to ride again. The guy in the hospital bed opposite him lost a leg.

Also said that my pain right now is because I am trying to solve an unsolvable equation, why this happened. And because we keep trying to solve it creates a big black dot on our soul, but as times goes by, we lessen the time trying to solve it and the black dot shrinks, but it never goes away completely.

NickW, you say the above, and then this....

Best friend (BF) and I were comparing notes and he said going thru the D process, his Xw was hyper focused, very organized and agenda driven, like my stbxw. His theory was that since the wives ceded so much authority during the M, t hat now they were going to be in control and make the monkeys dance.

Stop trying to solve it!