She replies with this "I dont see the money for me finding the loan or the money for my gucci purse you promised"
I have not responded.
Good for you!
Quote
I talked to my IC about that and he said "wow man you sound a lot better than you did last month, it seems like logically you get it, you just gotta keep making your heart believe what your mind knows is true" So thats what Im working on.
Glad to hear it, Steve.
Quote
My plan is to do nothing at all whatsoever and let her just go off pretty much. I expect it to get nasty, I expect her to threaten to go out with more men, pretty much anything to hurt me for not complying with her demands. Thats the bed I made for myself with this woman and I gotta face that now unfortunately. She will not like me ignoring her at all. She will get nasty.
When you stop giving her revelence in your life, she's left to deal with her own mess. She only gets something out of this bad behavior when she knows it is tearing you apart. Save yourself, Steve.
As for the anniversary, just don't respond or react to anything she might say or do. As far as you are concerned, it's just another day on the calendar. You see, our society has been programed and men, especially, think they have to do something or say something on those days. It's hogwash! Don't you dare wish her a happy anniversary........or respond to something she says.
I know you aren't a mean man. I want you to understand not responding to her is not being a mean man. Going no contact is not mean. Get that notion out of your head, okay? It is necessary that you show no interest, no value, no response to anything she says. You must do this in order for you to heal and have some normalcy in your life.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
