Thank you all for your sweet advice. I am documenting everything, and it is all still so ridiculous to me. I spoke to my L, and as I suspected, there is no recourse unless we have clear evidence of alcoholism (which is pretty much impossible to get) or unless something realllly bad happens. I think I will have to dive deeper into this topic of alcoholism with the boys earlier than anticipated.
The good thing is that so far ExH hasn't asked for regular overnight visits. And he does not drive (gets around by cab). The sad thing is there is no one here to help. I've reached out to his best friends last year to no avail. I hesitant to talk to my in laws about this, it will probably do more harm than good (They don't have any pull over ExH historically).
May, thank you for those points and I will really need to think about how to best arm my boys to deal with this situation.
Well, I am a little scared. If this is the beginning of the downward spiral, I wonder how fast it will go. Actually, come to think of it, I would say he's been on this decline for the last five years. I can foresee the next five years to not be so great for him. Maybe I need to speed up the D process and take a less than ideal deal now so I won't have to possibly end up paying child support to him if he loses his job!!?
Gosh, It's crazy to think that in 5 years my eldest will be 18!!!! I sure hope these precious babies of mine will grow up to be responsible, caring, loving, righteous men.
Again, thank you guys for all your input. It's so great to have this community here.
