New Beginnings

[AndrewP]

So true! OLMeeting, not dating! Time to rebrand things right! Yes, I do enjoy reading the profiles. And I wonder what my "competition" looks like? ..lol...I'm dying to see how other women present themselves. I'm just me

I actually have gone in a couple of times and switched the profile around to see. What I hear is more or less what I saw. A bunch of shirtless dudes wearing sunglasses and holding up dead or mostly dead fish Certainly a mix in there of guys kind of like me who are just every-day sorts of guys but the greater bulk are what I would think of as "Bro"'s - Fishin', Drinkin', 4-wheeling. But I live in a fishin, drinkin, 4-wheeling part of the world so they are more the norm than a guy who enjoys doing his ironing and going to museums.

What I see - and what is - for me - a turn-off - is a lot of drinking pictures. Pictures with an ex obviously cropped out, pictures that prominently show a wedding band still on their hand. Make an effort please .... Many of the pictures seem to be from the sort of mid-range all-inclusive resorts like my ex-wife and I used to go to.

Let's see - a lot of pictures with their dogs. Maybe crazy cat-ladies don't go for on-line dating? In this area a fair number of pictures of them with their horses. One person I recall wanted to date someone with a big enough truck to haul her horse trailer - oddly specific but not too surprising.

Just had a quick look. A lot of pictures of nostrils and conversely cleavage. Artistic types with black and white photos with varying types of shadows. Snapchat filters used to blur out wrinkles.

A good number of honest pictures - or what I presume are honest - especially of the more plain looking women.

I actually read the profiles - although like the Newcomers area here, most make me sad rather than interested. A lot of women who are looking for someone to cuddle and watch TV with - at least in my middle-age range. A lot of people who very specifically are looking for a travel companion - which I read as someone to foot the bill.

Profiles range from two words, a basic sentence or pages and pages of hopes and dreams. The longer profiles to me at least smack of desperation - but then I've been an observer for several years and judge based on that.

For some reason people seem to tend to be very attached to their particular variety of music. Country music around here Personally I have a wide taste and for a while recently was listening to some Mongolian heavy metal throat singing - reminded me of old Motörhead.

What I have found - at least with the 2 women who I did end up dating - was that "likes long walks" means from the restaurant to the car - not my usual hour long ramble through the woods or along streets.

Not sure if that was helpful or not.