New Beginnings

[CanBird]

I put myself out there into the online dating world. Anyone else have stories to share?

I have all kinds of stories. What are you interested in because I have them all?

So far I've gone on 1 coffee date. That was a warm up & no connection for me.

This is very common if you have standards and know your value,. Most of the time there is no connection or interest in another date.

He didn't look like his picture and some of his profile didn't match what he said in person.

Very common. Accept the reality of it and move on.

Oh well. 25 mins lost.

Lost or were you lucky to get out of the house and meet someone new.

Bachelor #2 meet up will be this wknd. I asked him to meet for coffee.

Interesting you asked him for coffee. Do you normally take the lead?

We'd been on a site chatting, exchanged numbers & have been texting. I want to see if there's any connection. What's the point in chatting more if you're not sure. It's just coffee. Well see.

Exactly. No expectations.

I will get hammered for this if Donnie H stops by but I still think OLD is the best way to meet new people you just have to temper your expectations and be patient. It is a numbers game especially when you know your value and won't settle.

Hi LH19. I'm mainly interested in stories of how people are doing with OLD now, during Covid. It's a got to be a whole different game now.

But really, people are people. Either you connect or you don't. I feel that way about anyone. Some friends I click with more than others. If I enjoy there company, I'll see them again. If my instincts say, TAP OUT, then I do.

I would say that meeting someone I don't connect with isn't always a total loss. I did gain some insight, from a male prospective on how OLD was going for him. However, when someone misrepresents who they are, and I know it happens, I feel like I never would have come in the first place if they were more truthful.

This time around, with Bachelor#2, I set up the coffee date. I want to see what this guy is all about, or not. We've been chatting for a few weeks, so... it's time to meet face to face. I think sometimes you have to take the lead, when you're ready to move forward. Otherwise you're just in this holding pattern of waiting.... and waiting.... and wondering. Maybe he's a shy guy? I don't know? I do like when a guy takes the lead, but it's okay if I do to.

No expectations. Sit, sip and see.

I think meeting people in whatever way is comfortable for you is what works best. I got on to see what's out there. I'm a single mom, LBS. (XH is MLC/WAS) I don't go to bars looking for love, that single's scene was long ago. And with Covid, .. just seems like OLD is an easy, and fun way to chat with other singles, and whatever happens, happens. I'm always up for my friends setting me up too.

You said it best:

..you just have to temper your expectations and be patient. It is a numbers game especially when you know your value and won't settle.

Cheers to getting out there