On the other hand, I would prefer to keep my family intact but she will have to really change and humble herself and I don't see that one happening soon or at all.
I take you saying "keep my family intact" as meaning to save the marriage. Something to consider is that it is no longer intact in her eyes and since it only takes one person to end a marriage, she is right. It may feel like a gut punch, but it is the reality of your situation. Confront the reality of your situation with the best attitude you have. Be smart.
Like Sandi said, she is getting everything from you that she wants and tossing away the parts she doesn't care for. Is that ok to you? Probably not, I know, but what are your actions saying? Do your actions reflect that you have actually heard her and understand her? Like R2C said, it would be a good idea to move her stuff to the other bedroom. She isn't your woman after all, and it is strange to continue as if she is. You say and act like that from a position of strength and internal confidence. You don't do this to hurt her or get snippy about it. You stick to the facts and keep your emotions to yourself when around her.
Anyways, more details would help.
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H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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