Trying to heal from WW

[OnlyBent]

I wonder how long it will take her to get curious and want to reach out but i guess it doesn't really matter anymore, need to change the way i think about things.

Just assume it will be never Ace, then you'll be fine no matter what.

I also think hope is a good thing, hoping for reconciliation kept me going and as time goes you can start hoping for other good things to happen.

Don't hope that your life will be amazing, KNOW that it will be amazing no matter what, but you have to make it so.

Also agree that the world is changing and people are alot more selfish in general and have unrealistic expectations. Social media also makes people seem happy and like they have amazing lives which makes people start thinking the grass would be greener with someone else. And then the hollywood rom coms etc. as well makes them think that love is supposed to be a certain way and its impossible to live up to those standards. Years is a long time to wait around, thats why i get the advice about GAL and move on. If it happens down the line and we get another chance then great we can see if its something we both want but hanging around waiting and effectively wasting a few years of your life is crazy.

Ace, from what I've read and experienced, most guys are pretty rubbish at being husbands first time round, not because they're malicious, just because we don't know any better. Some of us are lucky, yes lucky, that our Ws get fed up and end things. It hurts so much that we make sure we grow and develop so that it never happens to us or our children. Now the W will move on with someone new, and at the start they get the Insta/Social Media/Hollywood rom-com version that they thought that love was supposed to be. If they are lucky to get a man who has fixed his issues and now gets it, then the grass would indeed be greener. More likely, because what guy who gets it would move on another man's W, they will end up with a man who shows his crappy side eventually.

In the meantime, Ace has gone and improved himself and is living an A+ life. How appealing does Ace look now, but most likely, Ace has realised that he likes his new life and is no longer interested. I have heard versions of this story time and again.