Answer: We are raised mostly by our mothers, have teachers who are mostly woman, may have fears of abandonment, possibly some sort of shame that we are some how responsible for being abandoned. We were raised in the post Vietnam war era/ World War 2 parents.
I know in my case my father was a "NICE GUY" who was raised by his mother. So much of what I learned to be a male came from my nice guy father. So he was a conflict avoidant,co-dependent, enabling personality, so of course was I. Of course as stated above - mothers and teachers also have some responsibility in this trait.
So I agree that nearly everyone on these boards can fall into some category here. And of course another question is how do we keep our children and grand children from falling into the same trap?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
