First, most LBSs aren't as concerned about their kids being around OP as much as they are concerned about there being an OP. Those LBSs are not being honest with themselves about that, but use their concern for their kids as an excuse to "keep tabs" on their STBX.
I have to disagree with you here Steve. My not wanting my S around OM has nothing to do with keeping tabs on her or them. I didn’t choose to have a child so that some other man could spend time with him and have influences on him that are out of my control. Whilst I understand that throughout his life my S will come under the influence of people out of my control (friends, teachers, etc), it is not the same as a quasi-fatherly influence.
I don’t know my W’s OM, but from what I do know about him, I don’t like his values and I definitely don’t want my S to spend significant time around a person with those values, especially when those values are being implicitly approved of by his mother.
Me: 41 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 6
"What happened happened, and couldn't have happened any other way...because it didn't"
