Thanks Steve, I appreciate you taking the time and the dialogue helps me find my own nuances!

An update is that I said I prefer writing as communication moving forward and that's how it ha stayed for two weeks now.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021