Ok I am fully with you there Steve (and others on this board), and I agree almost 100%. The difference being, just because something isn't legally wrong doesn't mean I SHOULDNT voice my opinion. If XW were feeding them only rice and butter (which has happened but stopped) and lets say that is legally ok. Should I never say anything? Not even tell her I don't agree with it. Don't think so. What will my own kids say in 20 years if they hear I never said anything while I was thinking/feeling something was wrong? And what is the point of CO-parenting if general parenting principles are never even discussed. Might as well do parallel parenting (which I have considered in some instances).
So in my mind there is a line were I DO say something that does not necessarily match the legal line.
Fair enough. However, I think the approach is important.
"The kids talked to me about eating rice and butter. They said they didn't care to just eat that, can we agree that in the future their meals will be more substantial?"
VS.
"I want to know when OM stays the night while the kids are there!"
First one is coparenting, and working together. Second one is making a demand that, as sandi said, is really none of your business, short of what i discussed above.
Saying "something" is more nuanced than trying to "school" her...not saying that is what you were suggesting, but wanted to make sure that was clear for others that read this.
Last edited by SteveLW; 02/16/2109:38 PM.
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