The desire to touch the stove, even though you know you will get burned, is difficult to get over. From my past experience, it is easy to forget how awful it feels to reach out, only got get your hand slapped, rather than never reaching out at all.

Not reaching out feels bad. Reaching out and getting slapped feels worse. But as time goes on that desire to reach out starts to trump how we felt last time we got slapped.

The key to remember is that the clock restarts for a lack of pressure and pursuit every time you reach out and get slapped back. If you removing all pressure and pursuit was required for 6 months for her to start to get curious and come sniffing back around, well every time you reach out (pressure and pursuit) that 6 months goes back to a count of zero and you start all over again.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018