Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[SteveLW]

Elbereth, I am not saying you shouldn't ask him to sign it, you should. But promising to "help" with the D if he does isn't really a power move. So I was answering that question directly.

The sooner you can get him to sign the better. And the sooner you ask him the more likely you will get him to do it. But I just want you to realize that he has to be willing, you cannot force him, and threatening and promising things likely will make him dig his heels in deeper if he refuses to sign it.

As far as how, I think a straight-forward approach would work. Call him and ask him when you could get together to "sign some paperwork related to the D"? Get a meeting time setup with him at where ever you are going to get it notarized, and have him sign it. Keep it all business.

I am a little confused though, if you have everything documented then you should be able to prove that he took the mutual funds and spent them on himself AFTER saying he wanted a D. Any divorce court worth its salt would rule in your favor if you have that properly documented. And WASs are typically very lazy about D anyway so he probably wouldn't even show up for the court date for that ruling anyway. I am surprised your L thinks this post-nuptial is necessary, but he is the expert so let's go with it.