I wanted to add, please don't get to the point where you're so broken hearted and grief stricken that you can barely function. You don't have to hit rock bottom to see what everyone else sees. You need to be strong for your kids. Have a take charge mentality.
I almost got to that point last year but I have a strong enough constitution where I realized I could only control myself and not WW. I have kids so I have to be strong for them. They keep me going but I also realize I have to take care of myself.
I was in an IHS for 14 months - it is soul crushing - somehow I didn't go under and although the atmosphere in the house was toxic I managed to stay strong - but it did affect me, which in turn affected my kids. Unfortunately it's impossibly to keep a completely straight face when WW is leaving the house to sleep with OM and then comes home the next day and acts like nothing is wrong in front of me and my kids.
