Most of us on this website are IMO, empaths, not judges. We truly like helping people become the best versions of themselves so they can go on to lead happy lives either in a repaired relationship or in a new HEALTHY relationship.
I've seen so many people take time out of their day to post well thought out, meaningful, and thought provoking messages to you. A majority of those, you simply didn't even acknowledge unless the narrative aligned with what you wanted (ie dating).
If this website is about repairing broken marriages (let me rephrase, repairing non-abusive broken marriages) or bettering ourselves so that we can have a healthy relationship in the future, what is it you are hoping for when you ignore all advice given only to continue to date when IMO and the opinions of everyone here, you have no business doing at this time? We don't say that to be jerks or judge you. We say that because you are setting yourself up for more BD's.
All the advice here has been consistent, but you continue to ignore it. Why not have a little faith that we know what we are talking about and invest in yourself?
It's frustrating for me because I would love nothing more than to watch you heal, rise from the ashes, and then begin to date in a healthy way. You will say "yeah, I get it. I'm broken etc" but then do just the opposite of what you should be doing, which makes me feel like the time I spend on your thread is just a waste of time and not even response worthy.
I'll ask you again... what is it you are hoping we can help you with? Because no one here can give you advice on how to date while broken, or fix things with Pilot. You will continue to spiral over and over and over and over and over again until YOU do something different. Help us help you!
"Only a fool learns from his own mistakes. The wise man learns from the mistakes of others" -Otto Von Bismarck
