I'm not out there telling people they so duper awful and wrong.
I have definitely not told you you're duper awful, or super-duper awful, or even just plain awful. I believe there is a compassionate and nurturing side to you and that you could be a great partner to someone.
Originally Posted by KitCat
I've admitted dating may not be the best way moving forward.
Simple then--STOP--if you believe it's not the best way forward. Post here if you need support to stop. Acknowledgment, if that's what the above was, is the first step. If you believe dating may be your best way forward, own that. Some reasons your dating gives me pause--you had an abusive ex and haven't done the work to fix your picker making it more likely you'll end up in another abusive relationship, pilot had anger issues and you ignored each time I noted that (just as I had a blind spot for my ex trespassing into my backyard), you're sharing personal details with people you hardly know out of fear of rejection, you began before you were over your ex, you transferred your angst about your ex to angst about pilot, you struggle to enjoy being alone, you're not facing what you're doing ("it's just for friends"--WAIT NO! It's more), and the amount you focus on dating. All quick impressions, of course, and some may be patently wrong.
I hope I have imbued this post with more of a "caring/concerned" vibe than an "awful/wrong" vibe. If not, know that was the intent and I've appreciated your comments to me and am sending ((hugs))!
