Total newbie looking for encouragement

[SteveLW]

I have been reading a few threads from other newcomers, some of whom are at a similar stage to me. I was just wondering - what is the difference between a walk away husband and a MLC?

In my situation there is no OW.

There may be no difference. MLC might be the underlying reason for him being a WAH. Most of us come here convinced that our spouse is in a MLC. Remember, to the MLC spouse, an MLC is not a crisis. So you may want to avoid that terminology with him. For most people in a MLC they see it as an awakening. An epiphany. They'd say that they were never thinking more clearly! And the typical MLC lasts for years, so if you see it as a way of them maybe snapping out of it, that is the wrong approach.

This is why your only way forward is to let go, accept that right now he doesn't want to be a couple with you, and focus on yourself. Worrying about what is causing him to do is this misguided. It is probably your problem-solving side guiding you that way. "If I can figure out the cause, I can fix it!" You may never understand the cause...and even if you did you couldn't fix it anyway. I know you are early on and it is always hard to think this way early on, but you need to be trying to take your focus off of him...and focus on the one thing you still have control over....YOU.