Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[Elbereth]

Thanks OnlyBent. I know I am not alone in my feelings and situation. Unfortunately. I know logically this is happening, but my heart is still a bit shell-shocked. I spent the weekend trying to get a grip on my feelings and accept it for what it is, and look to what I can do to help myself get through this. And how to protect myself financially. I took a look at your sitch and I'm sorry you are going through what you are, and with a young child. I appreciate you taking the time to drop on my thread and as lovingly as possible, gave me a much-needed "get a grip" whack with a 2x4.

Kind of a rough V-day. It was 11 years ago that I took the leap and joined an online dating site on this holiday...with the hope of meeting someone new and getting a new opportunity at love. Sad to think about that today, that the person I met on that site, and that I put my trust into, could discard me so easily...like an old sock. And be so deceitful. It hurts, but I'm a strong woman and I will find a way through. And I appreciate having this forum for support so much. Especially with the pandemic and isolation.

Anyway, Monday is a new week and my goal is to get all my financials in order to give to my L. I am also going to try to get my H to sign the post-nuptial agreement (that the funds he took from brokerage and funds he spent without my approval --on his OW, toys, Airbnbs-- come out of his portion of the assets), but since so much time has passed (L's fault) I hope he is willing. He gave me a verbal that he would...but now is the real ask. I'm not really sure how to bring it up. If anyone has had a sitch like this, how did it go? I had told him I would not "voluntarily" help him D me, so I wonder if "if you sign this, I will move forward with D" is something to try if he refuses initial ask?