Loving like a man is easy. I can meet him halfway. I can split the bills. I can be there for him when it’s convenient for me. I can hang out with him as long as it doesn’t interfere with my plans. I can pass time with him when I have nothing better to do or anyone better to see. I can be his “equal”.
I could easily love like a man.
But I’m a 100% kind of girl. I don’t meet people halfway. I am all or nothing.
You are projecting H’s poor qualities upon men.
Men love 100%. Trust me on this!
Originally Posted by scout12
I, too, question whether men have what it takes to love like a woman. We live with the danger of being molested in public places, routinely harassed at work, sacrificing our bodies to give birth, breaking our backs to maintain a household, being used for sex over and over, while simultaneously being slut-shamed, then eventually abandoned for a younger model of ourselves, raising that man's children while he feeds his impulses and addictions into oblivion...
Perhaps you never read my thread.
Men do not have the market on irrational, immoral, deceitful, manipulative, lying, cheating, filthy, family-destroying, self-distructive behaviours.
We too break our backs maintaining home and house. We too get use and abused for sex, for money, for home and hearth (to name a few). We too get abandoned. We get shamed and ridiculed and commonly blamed and prejudged (case in point).
People have an incredible ability for evil. And an incredible ability for good. Gender plays little part in that. It takes two to cheat!
I am a man. And a damn fine one at that. Honourable, loyal, faithful, truthful, sincere, reliable, and loving.
I’m sorry you are hurting from XH’s inadequacies. (((Hugs)))
Love
D
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
