Onward and Upward!

[97Hope]

I wish our forum lived closer, too!!! I would love to have coffee with you guys.

I have a great network here. I hid what was happening for a long time, based on the hope/dream of a recon, but I eventually started telling my closer friends.

As I was developing those relationships more, I found that when I'm authentic, good friendships follow. A wise DBer has that as his tagline : )

You have me thinking about friendships this morning...

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Figuring out who I am outside of being a W took a while. Still a work in progress, I think. But the right people have stayed around and new, great friendships have begun to grow.

Not worried about appearances or fear of abandonment is like an albatross removed from my neck. Having peace with those that come, or go, out of my life brings joy and contentment.

I'm musing also, because a friend texted this morning concerned about me driving to work tomorrow morning. She asked that I text her when I get there. I said "I don't want you to worry, but I sure feel special that you are thinking about me!" She was married 23 years and her X left and married is AP 3 months later. That was 3 years ago. She is now engaged to a wonderful man.

I was at a party at her house last summer and I was envious with how well she handled her X being there (without AP) - how kind she was to him, etc. I also noticed how X would look at her with longing in his eyes when he didn't think anyone was looking.

I've since talked to her, I had no idea about their history, but I told her that at some point I would like to be in that place. She has been a rock for me.

I don't know, maybe we would or would not have become as close, but the end result is a beautiful friendship where we accept each other exactly as we are, encourage growth, and have a spiritual bond too, both being Christian.

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I hope that anyone new to the boards can take some encouragement today that as hard as it is, as bad as you feel, this can be an opportunity for YOU.

The sooner you take your eyes off of your X, the better you will feel, the more you can focus on your own journey, and the more peace you will find.

Reach out, post often and know you are NOT alone.

Happy Valentine's Day to my sweet friends (((((hugs))))

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