Gerda, I want to call attention to something you posted.
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I am still not sure except that the guys I know here and maybe one other IRL give me the hope that it is possible for a man to keep loving a woman in a True and self-giving way.
Here's the thing. I am happy to do 50/50 in a relationship. Loving like a man is easy. I can meet him halfway. I can split the bills. I can be there for him when it’s convenient for me. I can hang out with him as long as it doesn’t interfere with my plans. I can pass time with him when I have nothing better to do or anyone better to see. I can be his “equal”.
I could easily love like a man.
But I’m a 100% kind of girl. I don’t meet people halfway. I am all or nothing. So until I find someone that will meet me at 100%, I will save all of that effort for me and my child.
Dearest women, you know exactly what you are willing to give. You know you love 100%, so don’t settle for 50/50. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to relationships. If it's not 100/100, you are being exploited. Until you find a man that loves you like a woman would, save that love for yourself.
I, too, question whether men have what it takes to love like a woman. We live with the danger of being molested in public places, routinely harassed at work, sacrificing our bodies to give birth, breaking our backs to maintain a household, being used for sex over and over, while simultaneously being slut-shamed, then eventually abandoned for a younger model of ourselves, raising that man's children while he feeds his impulses and addictions into oblivion...
To live amidst all that and STILL continue to give endlessly of yourself...
That is what it is to love like a woman.
ETA: and that is why the number one attitude to break in our children to prevent them ending up here in twenty, thirty, forty years is ENTITLEMENT. Especially those of us raising boys.
