Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[OnlyBent]

I am in shock. I just don't know how someone can be so different from what they were. And I've done a lot for my H. Been there through some really tough "stuff" with him. And I've been so good for the kids. How can someone do this to someone who's been that loyal and not feel anything? I'm just blown away.

Hey El

I’m really sorry that you’re having to deal with this, I can understand how incomprehensible it is. Please know that it isn’t you, it’s him. Proof of this is how many of us here that go through the same feelings. When you’ve been through thick and thin with someone, been totally loyal, you really can’t understand how this is happening. But unfortunately it is, and accepting reality is the only way to deal with it. I’m sorry El, you have support here.