As much as you didn't want it, you have an opportunity to grow and be a better partner!
We have to look at the upside in this, even when it stinks. I had some major issues before BD. I could see where he wasn't happy, but I would have liked the opportunity to work on them, rather than just get dumped. I don't feel that 'sting' anymore, but I understand what you mean. I had to work through those feelings and just focus on what I could do better/different going forward.
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.