Originally Posted by 97Hope
Originally Posted by SaltyDog
And it was during this time that I had basically tapped out emotionally for my own reasons which led to her finding the support she needed elsewhere.


I'm reminded of the quote from "The Last Boy Scout". I've thought about it a lot over the last couple of years...

“Sarah Hallenbeck: You were never around. You know what? F* you, Joe. I was lonely!"
"Joe Hallenbeck: Buy a dog.”
Ha! That's a great line.
Originally Posted by 97Hope
Yes, you should be emotionally available to your X. But lonely people have agency...in a MR - communicate needs, GAL, journal...teach a goat to yodel...so many other options than D and A's.
Very true. I have accepted that it wasn't my "fault" but it will also sting at times. I also remind myself of the reasons I was checked out and all that I had to deal with which led to that perfect storm. It wasn't like I was doing it for sh!ts and giggles, but it is easy to rewrite history.