Trying to heal from WW

[Ace_32]

Hi Sandi, i did feel the urge once or twice to reach about but decided against it because or how she usually responds. I kept making the mistake for months and it always resulted in her saying something hurtful. In general i dont really feel the urge to reach out anymore, like i have read a few times here the marriage was dead at BD and she isn't the same woman i married. I do miss the girl i married very much, no matter what she has done i still love her.

Thanks Hope. I cant say im at a stage where i could think what others should do in there sitch's but i do agree that hopefully i can feel confident soon to start giving my input and just being present. Im sure there are things i have learnt and am still learning from my sitch that could be of value to someone else. I was reading posts here for 2 or 3 months before i felt confident enough to share my own story, still taking baby steps for now.

It is very tough to do NC but i guess it starts becoming easier when you realise that she doesnt want to hear from you anymore and responds harshly most of the time. I really feel like she doesn't care about me at all anymore, its quite clear from her actions but i still struggle to accept that. You are right that i do tend to focus on the good but there was a lot of bad which was far more than the good. Thinking i should make a list of the good and the bad which will maybe make it easier for me to see the whole marriage for what it was, thanks for the advice.