Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[Elbereth]

Thanks May.

My L is not a D lawyer, but a lawyer referral from family. I may need to get a D lawyer and expect it to get ugly as I'm sure he's probably hiding more. I am in shock. I just don't know how someone can be so different from what they were. And I've done a lot for my H. Been there through some really tough "stuff" with him. And I've been so good for the kids. How can someone do this to someone who's been that loyal and not feel anything? I'm just blown away. I feel so bad for the OW spouse too. He probably has no idea. I feel so hopeless even thinking about reconciliation. At this point it's completely off the table.

I so hoped to just coast for a bit until S18 is off to school. Now, I think I need to move forward full steam, even if it means moving, etc. I've already gathered some documentation, but not really sure what all is needed in my situation.

I'll look up Gerda's sitch, I think I've seen pieces of it from before I joined this forum. Feeling so overwhelmed... One day at a time. One day at a time. One day at a time.