Midlife Crisis and Affair with Past GF

[Elbereth]

Thanks everyone. I've been spending a lot of time reading your story May and catching up on your sitch. Not much had been happening with mine the last few days...

But today, I'm freaking out. I was just googling my Hs name and that of his mistress and found that they started a llc together two months ago. He had also drained one of our investment accounts. I have a post-nuptial agreement based on that I have wanted to ask him to sign...but hadn't had the chance this week. Now I found this! I'm freaking out. I have no idea how someone you love can do such things. I have reached out to my L and am waiting to talk to him. I feel I will need to initiate divorce process even though it isn't what I wanted. I'm so sad and angry. I'm in shock. It's like a second BD. I'm so confused. And scared. A divorce could affect my job situation too.

Reading your sitch May, I realize how wonderful all of you are on this forum. The feedback and support from all of you is so amazing. I'm learning so much...and I'm so grateful. Please send some positive vibes my way today...I need the hugs.