Steve_Letting go pt2

[97Hope]

Got a gym membership yesterday, went and worked out was good. going again today.

Yay!! Keep it up!

Stopped by in-laws to drop off homework my daughter needed. WW and her family were sitting around eating cupcakes,
asked me to come in. I declined, left the truck running. MIL tried to tell me how the kids are not doing school, my WW isnt making them. I just said "that shouldnt be happening" and tried to leave. WW told her mom, he doesnt care mom in some attude type of voice.

This made my stomach hurt. Good for not engaging, much. I have 2 words I got from another place, they are "Cool. Wow. Bummer." I use them when someone is attempting to triangulate. I also use "Interesting" or "I see" when I really want to tell someone to blank off. Find something that works for you.

She then walked to her car and proceeded to tell me how she plans to stay there when the IL's move to AZ like we planned and how she will take over the home. She then went on to say once they leave she wants me to move in. I said "if we are not together, why would I do that?" She got pissy again and said "I dont have the answer you need right now" I just said "its fine, im going to the gym now, ill see you later" she told me I looked good, gave me a big hug. I just left, I did my best to try to scram without being supremely rude to the IL's they are really good to me. I DO NOT text or call her and I dont answer her either.

See above. Cool. Bummer. Wow. Interesting. Also, and I know I'm picking here, don't tell her where you are going. She is no longer on your list of people you share your life with. I have to go, and then go. Also, good to be sweet to the IL's. Even if they are stinkers (1 out of 4 of mine are a major stink pot) and I'm so sweet to him butter wouldn't melt in my mouth! You could also say "I hear you, but I have to run, feel free to email me any details you need to convey"

On valentines I will do something with my kids. In other news I got a loan to consolidate my debt, it will save me $600 a month, will put me in a great position, rebuild my credit and ill be able to get some dental work done I want soon as well, finish a couple tattoos. I am not detatched but Im getting there a little more each day. Seeing the rotten person I called my W a little clearer each time. I will get there, and im working on it.

You are getting there! It's a marathon. Keep up the great work!!