DnJ, Job and Own, you are all three right! So helpful! I think I need to see things clearly via DnJ and Job's perspective but take the opening via Own's perspective. Own, I literally cut and pasted what you wrote into my reply. Only changed the end because, if you recall, he wouldn't even allow me to be on the same phone call with the mediator. Haven't hit "send" yet but will do it today. Own, your clients are very lucky to have you!

(Also the "professor" gave me a chuckle. He wants that so bad but I guess he never finished his dissertation all these years later and is stuck as an adjunct forever. It's really so sad, a broken man.)

Thanks for all the support, everyone! XO


I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord with courage.
Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.