Trying to heal from WW

[97Hope]

...I'm not really at a place yet mentally where i feel like i can add value or even know how to respond on what others are going through. It does help a bit though to know that im not the only one going through this terrible ordeal.

You are not alone. Sometimes reading other sitches, it is so clear what I think they need to do. I don't always post what I think, especially if a vet or others have already said it, but it does help me begin to trust myself more.

It's also easier to see what other's should do, and we can apply that to our own lives.

You can add value to someone just by being present. It's a good time to practice validation and empathy. Not saying you don't have it, just saying don't discount your own value.

Good job on NC. It's hard, but you are doing the best thing you can given the circumstances. Try and remember the R for what it actually was, not the fairy tail. I and many others struggle with this in the beginning. We tend to romanticize the R in hindsight. (I had to write out what I didn't like about my MR). It also centered me and gave me a better picture of what I wanted in any R.

((((Ace))) Keep moving forward!