I don't want a divorce II NEW THREAD Pt 28

[KitCat]

Hi KitCat, sending hugs and good vibes your way! It sounds like your plans for Valentine's Day fell through. That has to be a bummer. I hope you treat yourself to a nice dinner and a movie.

I would love to see your response to wayfarer when you have time.

Most days, I try to mix the fun, and the tough questions!

To be honest, my first thought was "WHY do these men know where your office is after 2-3 dates??"

My name in INCREDIBLY unique... even if you just had my first name and knew my profession you can find me in 60sec on a google search.

A logistical dilemma! What about a nickname? E.g., "Genevive" can become "Jenny". I sometimes obscure my first name similarly. People I met online and dated a couple of times don't typically know my last name, workplace, job title, or home address. That's needed when we go places more private or get more intimate. Do they need to know you are a veterinarian, or "I help animals. I work in a veterinarian's office" is enough at the beginning to give them an impression of what you do and are passionate about? It might also help screen out people who are interested more in your income than your kindness and compassion.

Thanks - I have shortened my name... but there are 9 people in my town that do what I do.... Additionally when out on a date and you say "you work with animals"... they continue to ask questions... so then I'm rude and dismissive because I'm being evasive about what I do.

Been there... done that...

I know 100% certainty that neither of these men knew my last name. I don't disclose it. You can pull up every vet clinic in town (cause there is 5 of them) and in 15min find me. Got to love the WWW.