But you have the best chance of success getting them to agree to a favourable settlement during that short window while they are feeling guilty or high on affair fumes.
Agreed!!! Mine wasn't particularly fast, but was very straightforward. He has apparently complained for years afterwards even though our financial split was very by the book. The only thing remotely negotiable was whether the alimony would be based on what I was currently making, or what he felt I COULD be making - we split the difference. I traded off the last two years of alimony for something else, (can't remember what) but that would have made no difference because he retired shortly after the abbreviated alimony was done and so I began collecting my share of his pension which is slightly more than the alimony was.
Scout - your H sure sounds like he was already cheating when you got pregnant or right after. His pathological behavior is so extreme. I'm so glad you were able to get out and get the finances settled quickly. I wouldn't sweat the visitation - he's unlikely to take half of what he has, and that may be for the best for your child. (And I would have strangled him over the cheese fries incident - do NOT get between a pregnant woman and her food!)
