[Gerda]

Eagle, you do not have to hold yourself to boundaries that no longer make sense. And I would not give a fig what H thinks. Do what is best for your kids. If I were your kids, I would feel unprotected and maybe even betrayed if Mom left me alone with angry crazy mean dad who I am mad at for a week.

Also you are not going to teach him what it's like to raise teenagers. First, it's only a week. Second, he is in MLC. He will leave saying it's so easy and you are a wimp who spends too much money on the kids, etc.

Tell him to rent an AirB nearby and the kids can visit him.

He says -- But you told me blah blah blah

You say -- That is no longer the case, sorry.

You don't have to explain or engage. But if you really want to answer, say -- That is not healthy for the kids. They can visit you at your place, even if your place is temporary.

I am forgetting your sitch at the moment but this is why you need to have a clear parenting plan, and it needs to establish that you have sole use of the marital home at least until trial. Don't believe me? Just read my story and see what can happen if you don't.